Was trying to come up with a positive way to reframe it when a work colleague/superior tells me to my face that it's better for the kids if the mom stays home with them when they are small. Two for two out of the last two weeks.
The only one I could come up with is that they think of me as a colleague / doctor / man(?) first, and a mom / wife / woman second. Or maybe they just feel super comfortable around me. I'm gonna go with, for now, that it's not because they want to tell me that they disapprove of my lifestyle, but maybe that really is the truth.
Guys, STOP TELLING ME THIS. It makes me feel judged, and anyway it's not true. Kids do best when both parents are happy, that's what the research indicates, anyway.
That is all.